''Suck-asm''

Everybody has a few close buddies where they could be sarcastic towards each other and not have second thoughts. Usually these are lifelong friends who understand you and are extremely close to where there is never a question of intention. I thought about that the other day and I started to reflect about the other end of sarcasm that we use them in our daily lives and what that seemed like. So why do we do it? Why does sarcasm dominate so much of the culture that we subsist in? I personally think that sarcasm is a defense system we use to shield ourselves or ward off something. Sarcasm is control of the situation that you find yourself in which has no benefits. When people are uncomfortable, self conscious and etc, sarcasm is used to deal with these things or in other words to cope. Therefore in the end sarcasm is an act of selfishness and egoism. I guess sarcasm is our defensive offense if that ever make sense. How if every sarcastic comment that people make was replaced with genuine encouragement or silence? What would things turn out to be like? Be sincere to yourself, think and make the correct decision.

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It’s a fact that doing and dreaming are two sets of dissimilar processes. All in all, we often bind to the process of dreaming. How many times have we stated a goal or target that we would like to achieve...and...in the end it is just a faint dream fading away resulting from our doubts in our own capabilities. We are a nation of dreamers, a nation of people who acquires the aptitude, but is short in the process of doing. Many a time, I come across the sentence – ‘I make it if I wanted to’ in which made me ponder. Yeah, when we make the same statement internally it surely does give us a huge boost of confidence, however, the question is - Do we carry the same confidence? I do not think we do most of the time. Frankly, I don’t. In clandestine, most of us are afraid of the process of doing and thus engaging more in the process of dreaming. Dreaming may be brilliant if clinging to it are actions of achievement. Conversely, when dreams are imagination which clouds the mind, we commit to being stagnate which can sometimes lead to resentment and disenchantment. So, where does this leave us? It leaves us in the all consuming position of choice. To Dream / To Do. Dreams are fantastic, but can finish a wonderful mind and lessen merits dying to be released. In short, what I meant is when we fall into the trap of dreaming, imagination becomes our reality and reality becomes indebted to us. As soon as reality is our debtor, it owes us something. However, when we commit to the process of doing, we craft reality, it becomes our vehicle to the dreams we wish to obtain.

PS : I feel dreaming is a wonderful experience, so to say that dreaming is not a negative or useless experience. What I am speaking is about different mindset of dreaming.

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Even though this might or will look as if it’s like a blanket idea, let me first state I do believe exceptions exist here. People can get angry for valid reasons and etc. However, what I am asking you to think about is...all the other times anger happens and how often it could be what I will mention below. Recently, I’ve been thinking and wondering as to why people respond with annoyance and anger so much in reply to anything seems to be the circumstances. I came to a conclusion in most of the cases where individuals respond in anger; they are maybe just wrong about whatever and thus led to an angry, frustrated, embarrassed and prideful behaviour. I feel anger is a so called ‘conceal’ and truly effortless exit from the true tough path of using the words. At some stage of life, we are so obstinate about defending our honour and have chased the rabbit thus far. It is simply a stubborn problem that we would rather continue to fight the barren fight than to admit and concede what we most likely know as truth on the inside. Next time, whenever you find yourself responding with anger first, quickly THINK, am I just angry because I'm wrong.

To Love, From Love

It’s devine to desire for love, expect love and most importantly have it. However, questioning ourselves; what should we do when we get love is common. We should just relax! It’s not that we expect the love to be one sided and not do our very part in a relationship. Love is unconditional, but it doesn’t mean one gives unconditionally and the other gets entirely. Affection is a state where a person truly concerns about you for YOU. You should do all you could be honest to yourself of course to reciprocate. I mean c’mon...every individual wants and desires for love and amity and the whole nine yards, nevertheless you MUST give the same. Do not just receive and feel threatened at times where people get tired of just giving while you compensate love with empty words and unfulfilled commitments. Be loved and love without circumstances but with responsibility.

Love is not just a word you use to threaten people into silencing them about your bad behaviours or broken promises. Love is what should encourage you to do your part as well. Love is simply unconditional when you do not put a condition that it is unconditional. In short, each of us should do our part for love!

Now

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In my personal opinion, the real idea to be real is through acquiring and persevering roots and really hit us in our deep hearts’ core in order to make essential changes in the way we think. Not only that, we shall match our attitude and precedence upon the reflection of impermanence. Understanding the evanescent intellectually only would not help us to cover every blades of grass on the field. On the other hand, realizing evanescent and how it pervades all present phenomenons are fairly important. Further improvements will be slow or nil if these apprehensions are left out. There would be countless changes if the awareness of impermanence is not intellectual but arising from our heart. It would then construct clear signs and indications that eventually bad behaviour becomes good with ease. Containing our egos would be pleasurable. We would not spend our time acquiring wealth through the ‘fast’ way or reputation through 'counting' the good deeds you’ve done. Over obsession in obtaining quick fame and wealth would definitely tie us down for years and yet get us nowhere. Yes! Some of the people do get rich or famous ‘overnight’ however those who get rich through evil ways should be ticked off the book. Take a look at all the people who have it (Ka-ching $$$), yet it ends... at the very last breathe they take. No matter how powerful, wealthy, & famous we are, it all does not matter anymore. The truth within the good deeds we’ve done is what we carry within us. However, distracting ourselves now by having ‘fun’ will lead us to greater regrets and short of time to do anything beneficial in the end… Death however, is not the end... it is truly a transition or a passage to the other realm of being. Nonetheless, whether the passage we are led to is pleasant or not is totally dependent on us at present moment!

PS : Procrastinations and not pushing will never escape from the truths of impermanence and death. Never adjourn or simply not think about it. Instead, we should think about it, face it, fear it and from this...DO SOMETHING AND SOAR!